men’s depth psychotherapy
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Depth-oriented work for men
seeking honesty, integrity,
and real change.
In-person in Southern Maine & online across Maine + Washington
We’ve all got demons. are yours running your life?
The voice that won’t stop picking you apart.
The tightness you carry all day without noticing.
The distance that grows between you and the people you care about — even when you’re trying your best.
You don’t need a lecture. You don’t need someone telling you what’s wrong with you.
You need a space where you don’t have to pretend you’re fine — a place where you can actually lay the armor down and look at what’s underneath it, without shame, without judgment, and without the old masculine rulebook breathing down your neck.
You already know you're capable of being a better man — a better husband, partner, father, friend — you're just tired of trying to figure it all out alone.
No one teaches men how to process fear, grief, anger, or loneliness. Instead, we get really good at compartmentalizing — pushing things down, muscling through, and pretending we’re unaffected. It works… until it doesn’t.
Those survival strategies you’ve been relying on were both smart and necessary when you learned them decades ago. But eventually they stop protecting you and start boxing you in.
Changing the way you relate to your thoughts, your emotions, and your habits isn’t a matter of “man up and try harder.” It’s a process of learning how to see yourself more clearly and work with what’s actually happening inside you — the kind of work that leads to real peace, intimacy, and integrity.
Living in your head is a dead end road.
Our emotions are not problems to solve. When we approach our inner life like we’d approach a math problem or a car engine, we’re guaranteed to end up lost and confused. The cycle of trying to fix ourselves with our minds has other consequences:
We struggle to know how to respond to the feelings of others
We hold unrealistic standards for ourselves and feel like shit when we don’t live up to our ideals
We disconnect from our bodies and become emotionally directionless
We struggle to be present and live in the moment
THE TRUTH IS, MOST OF US NEVER LEARNED HOW TO EFFECTIVELY PROCESS EMOTION.
i’m Paley.
I’ll show you how to stop performing your way through life and remember who you really are.
Through a combination of warmth, challenge, high level education, and cutting edge technique, I’ll help you break through the layers of emotional armor that keep you disconnected from others.
Men need to learn that true vulnerability is power. Most of us did not receive this lesson from our fathers or the culture of masculinity that surrounds us. We must reclaim this ancient wisdom that honors vulnerability as an act of courage. The world needs more men who are empowered to live from their hearts and not their heads.
SPECIALIZING IN:
01
Anxiety & Depression
What makes you so on edge all the time? What happened to that joyful innocence you had as a kid? Get to the root of these patterns of disconnection in therapy so you can reclaim your calm, your joy in being alive, and your sense of purpose.
02
sexual (and other) addictions
Learn what drives your patterns of compulsive sexual behavior, pornography addiction, infidelity and other addictions that sabotage connection and intimacy, such as alcohol and drug abuse, video game/smart phone addiction, and workaholism.
03
marital concerns
Whether your marriage or partnership has recently ended, is headed in that direction, or is at a crisis point that requires you to do some deep inner work to keep it from collapsing, you’ll want someone in your corner who’s knowledgeable of the territory.
Everything shifts the second you decide to face yourself.
If you’re ready to start, here’s how:
the process:
A conversation.
A free 20-minute consult where you give me a brief overview of what’s going on and what you want from this work; I answer any questions you may have for me.A decision.
If it feels like a fit — on both sides — we’ll schedule your first session.A commitment.
From there, the real work starts.
No hoops. No performance. Just two humans seeing if the work is a fit.
